Exercise for 10 minutes, to begin with, then increase that to 15 minutes and 20 minutes over time. Your next step is to find suitable mentors. Okay, so we now know that the personal standards we keep determine the expectations we set. Its also helpful to lower your standards to allow for mistakes and temporary setbacks. No matter what that is,you must first meet those requirements to have this goal in your life. Its like dangling a carrot in front of a donkeys nose. Comparing yourself to how other people live their life, is often not going to get you your desired results. As a result, you will be tempted to lower your personal standards. Its important to acknowledge that the origin of some of your standards may not have come from you. I should have a more passionate relationship. Identify the traits that characterized that person and the situation and alert yourself when these characteristics emerge in your future encounters. Do you have any goals you desperately want to achieve? What standards do I have for the roles I play in life?
We understand that mistakes are the building blocks of success, that we must accept mistakes and learn from them. Personal standards are mostly a set of behaviors that we choose to consistently indulge in. It is hard to be perfectly self-critical, so learn to use others as a mirror for your judgments. , its because your standard is to accept any offer that comes your way. In fact, acknowledge that, I know I can do better, and I will do better, I will not settle for less than my very best. With this awareness, we are more in-tune with our decisions, behaviors, and actions. In such instances, you are spending too much time trying to make things perfect when good enough is actually all you need. Reaching your lofty goals will, of course, take time. You will fail time and again and ultimately make mistakes along the way. Set your standards and stick to them. In fact, many of us made decisions when we were kids about what to believe, what we are capable. But what happens when you decide something is an absolute, What happens when you cut off any other possibility than you succeeding. It will make you more grateful for everything you have. When you consistently meet specific standards of performance, keep setting ever higher standards for yourself.
Your mentors will provide you with the insightsyoure looking for to help you achieve your goals. More knowledge and experience under your belt can provide you with the necessary confidence and motivation you need to perform at a higher level moving forward. Their low standards lead to average results, which is, of course, very good for you. Sometimes to move your life forward, you will need to take risks.
We will not go into any details here as I have already written an extensive article on this topic. Within every role, you play there will be a set of standards you uphold and a set of expectations that you have for yourself and others. Want to achieve real results NOW? Here's Why You Need to Stop Taking Life so Seriously! And the masses lead an ordinary existence. Even with high aspirations and big goals, living with a low set of standards will prevent us from ever reaching them. This knowledge and understanding will provide you with the impetus you need to make the necessary changes to move your life forward in more optimal ways. Most people, if they look at how they are living their lives today, will find that this set of limiting beliefs about themselves was created 10, 20, 30 or more years ago. How will I now behave while partaking in this role? Its kind of like implanting a thought into your brain an upgrade of sorts that optimizes how you think about these concepts and ideas. Like the donkey with the carrot, keep the carrot dangling close in front of your nose, but just out of reach. This will subsequently transform your decisions and take you down a more optimal path of action. They are in some respects performance standards. Do you have a weakness for junk food? How many times have you told yourself what you should do? As previously discussed, rituals are the actions that support the personal standards you set for yourself. As a result, you attract more opportunities and exceptional people toward your cause primarily because there is more certaintybehind your actions. Ask yourself: What new rituals must I adopt to live these standards? Remember that you are human and humans are imperfect; set finite, realistic standards that you can follow on a daily basis, and allow yourself to feel proud when you do so. Now honestly ask yourself whether or not you are doing your very best in each of these areas of your life. and begin living the life of your dreams. How would I ideally like to live my life having achieved this goal? Challenge yourself for a week by significantly raising your personal standards while building supportive rituals. Learn from adversity, learn from setbacks, and learn from the problems you face. They. Setting low standards will only take you so far along your journey toward your goal. You must instead look at ways you can separate yourself from the masses. And with every step you take you grow a little more confident and familiar with your journey toward your goal. You may, for instance, need to discipline yourself to keep your environment in order; to improve the quality of your work; to eat healthier meals; to curb your spending habits, etc. Furthermore, you may even allow others to walk all over you, which is a clear indication that youre struggling with low self-esteem. He may say to himself, Im going to do my best to stop smoking, but Ive always been a smoker. It doesnt matter how hard he tries: if his identity is that he is a smoker, its futile. However, your very best is just not good enough. Possibly you even modeled them from a television role model you had as a child. We all have our vices, but we must remember how hard our bodies work to support our life experience. Every goal you set comes with a variety of requirements that you must meet. For instance getting out of bed at 7 am and exercising for 10 minutes could be an excellent ritual that can help get your day started on the right track. Remember that your rituals dont need to be complicated. Others may not be in a relationship because their standard is, Tony tells us that, Your income right now is a result of your standards, it is not the industry, it is not the economy. If you are not making the money you desire, you havent reached the position you want or you are. Answering this question and discovering what your true beliefs are about yourself is critical. In romantic relationships this is especially true. But, like everything, self-criticism can be practiced in excess. Do you ever wonder what separates the highest achievers from everyone else? Whether you are rich or poor, make a point of budgeting your finances towards the things that matter most, so that you may feel proud of yourself and grateful for your purchases. What goals do I want to achieve in each of these areas of my life? Be gracious and use conscious energy to benefit their wellbeing in return. The purpose here is to use them as inspiration to help you raise your own personal standards. In such instances, take a chance on yourself and shoot for the stars. However, youre different. Complacency is something that often affects even the highest of achievers. Writer, optimist, fresh air enthusiast | Founding Editor of selfactual.com. Please see The Pain and Pleasure Principle for more information. Or are you more reserved? Tony tells us that, Your income right now is a result of your standards, it is not the industry, it is not the economy. If you are not making the money you desire, you havent reached the position you want or you are stuck in an unfulfilling career, its because your standard is to accept any offer that comes your way. Then just keep progressively moving forward.
Set higher standards that will keep you challenged and focused, but be cautious not to consistently set standards that are completely unattainable at this very moment along your journey. With low standards, you will struggle to put enough time, effort, energy, and resources into achieving this goal. In fact, everything you do and say provides others with insight into the personal standards you keep. What new behaviors would I need to adopt? Being an active self-critic will prevent you from becoming defensive and egotistical, and will heighten your chances of excelling in life. Do you like experimenting with drugs? No matter who you modeled them from, you have, as of this moment accepted these standards as part of your life. What will I accept and no longer accept of myself, of others, and of circumstances in each area of my life? Your personal standards are, of course, intricately intertwined with your level of self-esteem.
Learn to identify the latter and set a standard to form relationships with these types of people. In the future with more knowledge and experience what seemed unattainable today will become attainable tomorrow. As a result, you feel more confident about your goal and about the opportunities that present themselves. When a person meets this standard let them know. Allow yourself time to experiment and make mistakes. They just get comfortable with how things are, and no longer set higher performance standards for themselves. Your personal standards are also reflected in the promises you keep, in the way you dress and manage your life, health, finances, and environment. Many people wish they were thinner, healthier or more fit. You might, for instance, be doing the very best you possibly can in a particular area of your life. Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to raise your standards. What little things must I do each and every day to live these standards? One essential factor in the process of converting your mistakes into success is setting standards along the way. Or are you more partial to the opportunity that money creates. I was recently chatting with a friend about the current state of the world. The roles you play may include being a friend, parent, teacher, employer, employee, leader, sister, brother, etc. This is a time to learn from your experience and make adjustments moving forward. to break through that glass ceiling. is a direct reflection of your standards. What you should do instead is gain more knowledge, resources and/or support. Instead, envision your goal from a future perspective of your desired reality.
If for instance, your work or home environment is messy and disorganized, then that reflects the standards you uphold in this area of your life. You didnt raise your standards enough to make it happen. On the other hand, if they sense that you hold high standards, then you are more likely to win their respect and admiration. Dont you think its time to raise the standard, turn your shoulds into musts and give yourself a new identity? Incrementally take time each week to raise your personal standards and tweak your rituals accordingly. As a result, your behavior changes, which subsequently impacts the results you realize in relation to your goal. Above are just a few of the standards that are important to me. Remember that most people have very low standards and expectations of themselves.
You will need to break old patterns of behavior and develop new rituals and habits that will provide you with the impetus you need to make positive changes in your life. Set your standards and stick to them. At times things might just be progressing a little too slowly for your liking.
Also, remember to build on your past successes. Then go all-out that week doing all you possibly can to reach those lofty standards. Do, however, be careful as making comparisons is rarely helpful, even in such instances. If you answered yes to any of these questions, then Im confident you will gain tremendous value from using the accompanying IQ Matrix for coaching or self-coaching purposes. When somebody wrongs you, consider their motives. . Raising your personal standards is unlikely to be an easy, uneventful process. you are making an inner shift to take control over the quality of your life. You are living under a false identity that is based off of false beliefs you adopted in the past. The standards you set for yourself and for your life will not always be attainable. However, they are just not high enough to make a significant difference in your life. And the days until he is back smoking again are numbered. It is now time to set some clear standards and expectations for each area of your life. This happens because you fail to stand up for yourself you fail to stand up for your principles and beliefs.
Subsequently, you will begin to settle for the easiest path. He may say to himself, Im going to do my best to stop smoking, but Ive always been a smoker. It doesnt matter how hard he tries, f his identity is that he is a smoker, its futile. Only when you decide to accept nothing less than your ultimate goals will you achieve them. It Insecurities are the weeds in your garden. This friend of yours has certain standards that they uphold each day. Have they had your best interest in the past? However, for these rituals to be most effective, they must help you prepare, plan and think ahead. All you need now is a little commitment to back your desire and actions. With that in mind, its important to note thatyou are always sending subliminal messages about how you feel about yourself, others, circumstances, and life whether youre consciously aware of it or not. Your current reality is the life you are living at this very moment. Our health is also the result of our standards. In fact, treat every step as an experiment that helps you to learn, grow, and develop yourself in a new way. Many people stop working to break through that glass ceiling. The fact that you have finally acknowledged that something must change is an essential first step. And it starts with asking yourself, honestly, who you are. Ask yourself these questions. What rituals could help support this development? What traits would I need to cultivate to achieve this goal?
Another trap you will want to avoid is lowering your standards to match societal norms and expectations. Only when you decide to accept nothing less than your ultimate goals will you achieve them. Others may not be in a relationship because their standard is to never get hurt. Whats more, they are also reflected in how you expect to be treated by other people. But be very careful not to lower your personal standards just because you are looking for an easy way out. Its important not to overcomplicate things. Try these: time managementrelationship advicehealthy lifestylemoneywealthsuccessleadershippsychology. Remind yourself that the process of raising and meeting your personal standards aint easy. In such instances, its important to step back and gain the necessary knowledge and experience before pursuing those lofty goals once again. Fill in the form below to schedule your FREE 30-minute session with a Tony Robbins Results Coaching Strategist. Mindfulness is the key to self-awareness. Performing at your very best will always ensure that you are improving and moving forward just as long as you learn from every experience and use those lessons to improve on your past performances.